I just heard her name come out of my son's mouth for the first time. Fucking bastard (STBEX, not my son). Didn't wait the 12 months as we discussed, but more significantly, didn't even have the courtesy to tell me in advance that they would be spending time with her. No ability to prep myself for that one.
I tried not to be taken aback and I didn't say anything dramatic or negative, but my NO picked up in my changed mood even though I tried to conceal it. Bastard. Fucking asshole bastard who didn't have the courtesy to tell me.